Monday, June 10, 2013

Great Question!

I quickly realized that having conversations with my nine year old is way different than having conversations with my four year old. There are always going to be a lot of "why" questions no matter the age, but things get a lot more interesting as kids get older. 

Especially when they can read! 

Any time my kids ask an intriguing question (not something like "what's for dinner?") then I like to respond by saying, "great question!" I'm hoping that my kids will feel as though they can always come to their Dad or I when they have a question no matter how BIG or small. 

One day we were driving down the road and my oldest daughter saw a sign that said "dead end." She asked, "What does that mean?" I said, "Great question!" and then preceded to tell her what it meant.

Then there was that time when we were in a waiting room together and she saw this magazine.


She brought it over to me and asked, "What does that mean?" 

I completely froze up...completely! "Ummm, Uhhhh, I'mmmm not suuure." 

Fail, FAIL...I totally failed that one, not to mention that I just lied to my daughter. 

I should have said something like, let's talk about it later, but I totally clammed up.

Isn't this journey of parenthood so interesting? I definitely didn't see that one coming. I feel like I'm learning something new every day. 

Today's lesson...I want my kids to be able to ask me anything...ANYTHING. But that also means that I have to be prepared to say things like let's talk about it later, or I'm not sure the answer to that but I can find out for you, right after I say, "Great question!" 

How do you prepare for kid's great questions about life?

8 comments:

  1. Wow...I don't know what I would have said to that "Great Question" about the magazine. I have a 1 1/2 year old so most of my "Great Questions" are asked by other people's children. Usually they're really easy to answer, but every now and then I get one that I don't feel comfortable answering. If it was my own child I would be, but I don't exactly want to feel responsible for over-informing another person's child.

    Children ask a lot of great questions and I love the idea of telling them that it's a great questions before you answer it. And I guess in some cases it gives you a bit of time to think, especially when they take you by surprise!

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    1. Amelia,

      Those surprise questions get me every time! :-)

      ~Sarah

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  2. After a 'great question' from my 7 year old son, I'll sometimes ask him to explain how he came up with that question, or even what HE thinks the answer might be. That gives me more of an idea of what angle he's coming from.
    Example of when I DIDn't ask for clarification: We were out for a walk and he asked, "Mom, what's a booby?" So I went on to explain that "booby" is another word for breasts. He looked REALLY confused ~ so I asked the question that I should have asked first (what do you think the answer might be) and he clarified that he'd heard the phrase "booby trap". OOOHHH!!!! Then my revised answer made a lot more sense to him :)
    Also, I've found that with 'birds & bees' topics, I've been very open to give short & sweet answers to questions my 7 and 4 year old have. They ask because they're curious (we just had a baby 2 months ago) and I think that the more relaxed and open I am with explaining things when they're still 'little', the better our communication will be with more (typically) difficult topics as they grow up!
    Anita :)

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  3. That is definitely a hard one!! I love your blog here!!!! I am visiting from Julie's blog.....I look forward to following along with you and I love that basement makeover!

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    1. Thank you so much for stopping by! :-) (Julie is so precious!)

      ~Sarah

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  4. I don't have my own kids so I have the fun task of having to fig out how to let them know the question was OK and how to direct it to them asking parents cuz like u I.want the kids in my life to think.I am a safe person to ask. I often pull out the God trump card. Or had N. Showed me that and asked me I prob would have said that is a question for mom and dad to answer. I like ur great question aprouch I'll have to use that when I have kids ~chantal

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    1. Chantal,

      I like your thoughts on this.

      ~Sarah

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