Monday, September 30, 2013

An Easy Phrase To Use With Your Kids: "With or Behind"

Over the past year we have coined a few phrases with our kids that we can say to them and with just a few words they know exactly what we are communicating to them. 

Over the next few weeks I thought I would share a few of those phrases with you.

Here is the first one.

phrase to use with your kids, with or behind

I used to wonder how I would go anywhere with five myself (I had these same thoughts when I went from one child to two.) The ratio is pretty one sided and I am outnumbered. Given the young ages of our kids this was a concern. At any moment one of them could run across a parking lot and not be seen by a car backing out. They don't always know the dangers around them but as their mom I do.

We also have a few kids that love to be the first person to wherever we are going.

One great example is when I go to the gym. The kids know how to get from the parking lot into the building and to the class that they go to. If given the opportunity they would run ahead (out of sight) and go directly to their destination. I don't think that the gym staff appreciates my kids running in on their own, not to mention that I know that the littlest might stop for a drink at the water fountain or someone else might stop and use the bathroom. For numerous reasons it is evident to me that I need the kids to be right where I am and not running ahead.

So one day we started saying, "with or behind." They know that this means stay right next to me or walk behind me. Basically, don't run ahead. 

Many times I would say this phrase to train them to listen and walk with me when they had run ahead and then I would pause and have them come back to where I was before continuing on our walk. As a parent, this little phrase has given me the confidence to go out in public with my kids. ;-) (...All while keeping them safe from danger.)

I would guess that I still say the phrase almost every other time that we are out. It is great to have a phrase available that in just one breath and a few simple words I can communicate to my kids exactly what I need them to do. 

Do you have any phrases that you use with your kids? Are there any that you remember your parents saying to you when you were younger?

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  1. We use the phrases "right away," "all the way," and "happy heart" a lot in our home. We've taught the kids that obedience is doing what we say right away, all the way, with a happy heart. when they aren't obeying we try to pin point which part they're missing and say the quick and simple phrase. Usually "right away" and "happy heart" are said in our home multiple times daily.

    1. Allyson,

      Those are some great phrases! We love using "happy heart" too.



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