Monday, September 1, 2014

Documenting Our Adoption Story

Last week we sat down in the stillness of our home to document our adoption story. Ryan, our friend (and extremely talented guy at capturing stories on film) was there to walk us through the process. 


We had been asked to tell our story a few years ago but the timing didn't seem right. I also didn't want to become a complete puddle of tears in front of complete strangers. Even now I wasn't sure that I would be able to tell the story clearly. A decade of memories and...

the pain is still so raw...

the miracles continue to inspire my faith...

and the end result...always feels like a dream. 

Yet Sam and I both agree that the purpose of sharing our story goes beyond simply documenting it for our family. Our dream is that others will consider being involved with adoption or foster care without having to go through loss to have their eyes opened to the need and loss of others. 

As a young adult, I was never against adoption. 

I simply didn't know anything about it.

Growing up I really only learned about the birds and the bees for family growth. No one ever taught me about international adoption, domestic adoption, or foster-to-adopt adoption. From culture and the few stories that I heard around me, I had concluded that adoption was too difficult and way too expensive. 

No one had told me just how beautiful it could be.

So I write to share little glimpses into the life of an adoptive family. 


In a couple months I hope to share with you the finished product of our story. Of course it will never really be "finished" per se. With each new day that goes by another part of the story is written.


Did you grow up learning about adoption? What are the first thoughts that come to mind when you here the word adoption?

8 comments:

  1. My brother was adopted, several of my cousins were adopted and one of my nephews is adopted. Two of my 3 kids are adopted. I always knew I wanted to adopt when I was growing up...it just seemed a natural part of "how you get kids."

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  2. 4 of my uncles were adopted, 3 internationally and one through foster care. They also had other foster kids in the home, so I had hear about adoption ever since I can remember. Also one of my closest friends as a girl was adopted. My husband and I had talked about adoption, but never started pursuing it until after a miscarriage. We have one biological daughter and have fostered 3 kids. We desire to adopt. It started as a desire to grow our family, it was what WE wanted, but God is teaching us that adoption, fostering, and even having birth children is not about us at all.
    Can't wait to see your story!!! :)

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    1. Katy,

      I can't wait to hear how your story continues to unfold!

      ~Sarah

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  3. I always new I'd adopt internationally. I thought about it as a kid (about 8 years old). I got married and put it out of my mind. We would adopt, some day.......then after 6 years of marriage and no children, we found an agency and started the process. 2 years later we brought home our sons! 2 boys aged 2 and 3 from Russia. 4 years later, hands down, best thing we ever did. These kids are amazing.

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    1. That is wonderful...and I especially love the hands down part! :-)

      ~Sarah

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  4. I love the point you bring up, never hearing about the option of adoption. So true. I didn't either, and it's interesting because we talk about it often with our daughter. She's six, and this past year she said, "What if I can't find a child to adopt, I don't know how to do it." I smiled and then put her fears at ease. But isn't this so true. I wonder about all those around me who feel this great desire to have a biological child, yes, it is the "typical" way of doing life, but I wonder why they don't consider adoption. Maybe one of these upcoming generations will see it differently because it's talked about more.

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  5. I didn't really know that much about it until a few years ago. There was one adopted person in our whole extended family that we knew of and she didn't know she was adopted so we couldn't talk about it (she is elderly and still, to this day, doesn't know and probably never will). My husband has always said he is open to adoption. I guess I never even considered it. Now that I follow multiple families blogs who have adopted, my education about it has increased a lot and I feel much more positive about it than what I gleaned from my own childhood and younger adult exposure. I think I would be open to fostering children once our children are grown (we have some health issues with them currently and I just don't have the energy or mental capacity to think of doing it now). Recently I learned of the fact that so many kids just age out of foster care and then don't have a family unit to lean on as they enter the world of adulthood. That really struck my heart.

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