Monday, December 15, 2014

What The World Needs

The conversation usually goes like this...

A new person that I meet asks how we adopted our three oldest children. I mention that we adopted them through foster care. "I want to adopt some day," they say. "But, I don't think I could do foster care. I can't imagine getting attached to a child and loving them so much only to have them leave."

I respond with a nod. That would be really hard. 

Then recently a friend who does foster care told me about a call that she received for a placement. The social worker told her about some kids who needed a temporary home. The social worker said, "we have other foster homes that we could put these kids in, but these kids aren't hardened yet. We know that your home would be safe and caring."

It's true, these friends, they have one of the most caring homes I've ever been in.

To which I just cried as my friend told me over the phone. "How do we say no to that?"

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The truth is foster-to-adopt or foster care are never an "easy" option. I fully believe that you have to go into situations with eyes wide open. Ask questions, find a support group, get on your knees and pray. My husband has said many times, "God doesn't call us to what's comfortable or convenient but often to what's challenging and costly. If it feels like it's more than we can handle, maybe it's the right thing." 

In the Bible, in the book of Matthew, a Pharisee asked Jesus a question. He said, "Teacher which is the greatest commandment in the Law?" And Jesus answered, "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the greatest and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself." 

Even the simple command to love our neighbors as ourselves is more than we can handle. We need God's help to do that, so maybe as followers of Jesus who have been called to love Him with everything we are and to love others as ourselves, maybe we should start with what the world needs...even if it feels like more than we can handle...maybe it's the right thing. I believe that the world needs more safe and caring homes for kids who are simply caught in the middle of a desperate situation. Kids who need someone to love them and care for them and show them the love of God for whatever time they have them, whether foster care or adoption.

Today I want to challenge you. Maybe you haven't been able to take that first step towards finding out more about foster care or foster-to-adopt because you have thought that it's more than you can handle or that it would be too difficult, even though your heart burns to love and care for children who desperately need a safe place to call home or a family to welcome them. But, what if instead of starting with ourselves, our situation, our needs, our wants, or our abilities, we started out by asking what others desperately need? What if we started by asking, what the world needs and connect that with what we have to offer that makes us come alive in giving it? To quote Frederick Buechner, maybe we're called to the places where "our deepest passion meets the world's deepest need."

Why NOT spend your life for others? Why NOT pour ourselves out for the things that break our hearts? If it breaks our heart it may be that that's where our deepest passion and the world's greatest need are meeting.

8 comments:

  1. Thank you for posting this. I've been a foster parent and it is truly a rewarding experience. Yes, there are bad days, everyone has bad days. But the good ones make up for the bad. I also encourage people to follow their heart, make a call to your local state department and inquire. And, if you truly can't foster, there are tons of organizations out there that help foster children and foster parents.

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    1. Adrienne,

      Thank you for sharing, great advice!

      ~Sarah

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  2. Made the call. Went to the class. Had the 1st home study and found out our windows were 2" too small. Heart was crushed and to be honest...hardened a bit. Which, if you knew me, is even odd to Me. This cracked it back open a bit. Deep calls to Deep. Thank you.

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    1. Steph,

      When we moved into our current house we had to replace one window in each of the kids' bedrooms to make them accessible for a fireman to enter (that was what our county required.) Thankfully that was the only major change we had to make. Would they let you replace just one of the bedroom windows?

      ~Sarah

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  3. My husband and I have seriously thought about foster/adoption over the past few years, since we can not have any more biological children. But I will admit that the potential heartbreak of attaching ourselves to a child that we won't be able to keep has made me hesitate. Your well-written post has given me much to consider about my call as a Christ follower, thank you for that.

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    1. Blythe,

      It is definitely a valid feeling to be hesitant for that reason. Thank you so much for reading and for considering all that you are!

      ~Sarah

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  4. Oh, I love your posts on adoption so much!!! I recently read a great article on this same subject, (http://www.thelewisnote.blogspot.ca/2014/11/why-could-never-be-foster-parent-i-get.html) and she mentioned how getting "too attached" is just what kids need.

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    1. Katy,

      Great article, thanks for sharing! :-)

      ~Sarah

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