Adoption Story

Update: Thoughts after Year ONE & Year TWO 

In 2005, right before our one year anniversary, we were super excited when we found out that we were expecting our first child. However, a few months later, very unexpectedly, I miscarried our baby. That was one of the hardest things that we have ever gone through (talk about getting thrown off course!)

Over the course of the next two years, I miscarried two other babies. After the third miscarriage if I was honest, I would say that I was pretty internally angry at God for all of the pain. However, the pain became unbearable and was too great to carry on my own. As I began to seek out the character of God and his love for us, I came to one conclusion...Satan is real. My anger lifted and I started to feel hopeful again. During that time Sam and I both felt moved to adopt.

At first it seemed like a way to expand our family but it didn't take long for our hearts to be dramatically changed and our eyes opened that it is so much more than that.

Did that mean that we wouldn’t have any biological children? No, we felt that our family was going to be a wonderful mix of both. Where there had only been pain there was now healing and hope!

On May 2nd, 2008, a dear family friend asked if he could pray over us since he knew our situation. We were open to all of the prayer we good get! However, we were surprised when he prayed, asking God that I would give birth to a baby in 9 months. (Talk about being too crushed from the past to get your hopes up and still trying to have faith to believe that it could (with a slim...it would take a miracle kind of slim) chance happen!)


Exactly one month later we found out that we were expecting. 

EXACTLY nine months and one day from when that prayer was prayed, our daughter was born! 


Her middle name just happens to be "Hope"!


Next, along came our youngest son a few years later with no complications. We are SO thankful for these precious lives!


Before our youngest son was born we had moved to Minneapolis and were extremely excited to be surrounded by so many people that had a heart for adoption. In 2010 our friends, along with their four children, were in the midst of making a decision to open up their home to a sibling group of three children. These children had just entered the foster care system. 

I remember sitting with our friends in their kitchen as they asked for prayer in the direction that they felt God leading them, to open, not only their house but also their hearts, to these precious little ones. During the almost two years that the kids lived with them, we felt that we were suppose to be a part of our friend’s lives and the lives of these kids. To help in any way that we could since having seven kids seemed like no easy task even though our friends made it look so easy!


We got to know three of the most adorable kids and our hearts grew. 

A set of circumstances happened and Sam and I both knew that God was leading us to help out in their situation in a long term way. We wanted to be available to adopt them if that was the way things ended up going, but either way we knew that we wanted to be a blessing for the time that they were in our lives.

We became licensed for foster care so that we could help out even more. Then it happened: the need arose for these precious kids to have a Forever Family. 

It was an emotional process of praying through things with our friends as we were all extremely connected to the kids and wanted the best for them. It wasn’t a matter of “if” the kids would be adopted but “who” would adopt them. We knew that no matter what, these kids would be loved because they would forever have both families in their lives. Both families (our friends who were the foster parents and us) felt that Sam and I would move forward with adopting the kids.


This was our FIRST family picture, thus beginning our treasured family shots (unedited and unscripted!) Our youngest daughter is just four months younger than our middle son (I like to refer to them as the twins that don't look anything alike.)

The kids joined our family and we celebrated our “Gotcha Day” on January 21st, 2012 (one of those days that we will never forget!)


The number five means a lot to me. Through the process of having our two biological children I struggled with how to express that even though you could only see two children we really had five.

Five…three children that would have been older than our first born daughter.

We look forward to the day when we get to meet our three other children up in eternity. For now we have three children being raised by their perfect heavenly Father up in heaven and five get to experience life with their not so perfect parents.

I have been completely…COMPLETELY overwhelmed by the goodness of God!

The truth is…God REALLY IS THAT GOOD! God can take ALL things, even the pain that each person in our family has experienced, and cause them to work together for good for those who love Him.


Since our adoption, we have been asked by many, “How did you go from 2 kids to FIVE!?!” Stick around, because this blog is all about living out that reality and finding joy in the midst of the craziness!

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27 comments:

  1. Hi Sarah! I'm so happy to have stumbled upon your blog! I think we just might be kindred spirits! My husband and I also live in the Twin Cities, have five young children ages 8-4; 2 by birth and 3 by adoption. We love family, love adoption and love the Lord! I look forward to following the adventures of your family and the journey God is taking you on!
    God's blessings on your family!
    Kristen

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    1. Hi Kristen,

      Wow! That is a LOT in common. :-) I would love to hear more about your story. If you get a chance in between chasing those wonderful kiddos send me an email. Blessings to you!

      ~Sarah

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  2. Hi, I'm Iris.
    I just found your blog and WOW. I'm really touched by your story ! Your family is beautiful. This is such a great story and it just makes my testimony of God and his kindness even deeper.

    Iris from France
    http://matthewandiris.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you Iris, you are very kind. God is truly amazing.

      ~Sarah

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  3. Wow, love this story of God's greatness!! So touched by your story and obedience! We are currently adopting from the Philippines and I love to hear other people's story of adopting!

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    1. Mandy,

      It is totally unreal how GREAT God is!! How is your adoption process going...have you already been placed with a child? So exciting for your family! :-)

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  4. Sarah, I just stumbled upon your blog via Pinterest. It has brought tears to my eyes, and hope to my heart.
    A week and a half ago, I had my second miscarriage. 2 miscarriages in a period of 5 months. With this last miscarriage, I was almost 13 weeks along. :(
    My husband and I have 2 babies in heaven, but none on this earth. Our hearts are broken, yet we are are clinging to the hope that a future pregnancy might give us the baby we ache for. We also have a desire to adopt one day. Thank you for this blog post, it was encouraging. God bless.

    ~Noel

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    1. Noel,

      I am SO SORRY for your loss. Wow...to have it be your second one and be that far along, I can only imagine how heartbroken you must be. My second miscarriage was the hardest emotionally because I expected everything to be fine after going through one miscarriage. Take time to process through this and be real with God about what you are feeling...He isn't afraid of the real stuff. I pray that our story gives you a glimmer of hope because with all of my might I firmly believe that ANYTHING is possible with God! He sees you where you are at and He is walking right beside you. Keep clinging on to that HOPE!

      ~Sarah

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  5. Hi Sarah,
    This is a wonderful story and what a beautiful family. We are trying to have a second baby, our daughter is almost 3. I miscarried 2 months ago....and I realized that everything just needs to be left to God. I hope we will expand our family soon :)Wish your family all the best and lots of happy days!

    N

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    1. N,

      I am so incredibly sorry for your loss! I fully believe in the power of prayer. I will begin praying that God would give you the desires of your heart! Thank you for sharing.

      ~Sarah

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  6. What a wonderful story and a beautiful family!! I got my BFP with my daughter on June 1, 2008.. just one day before your BFP with your younger daughter. :) That's amazing that your friend prayed for you to have a baby in 9 months and it happened. Wow!

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    1. Karen,

      What a fun coincident! :-)

      God is pretty amazing when it comes to timing, I'd say!

      ~Sarah

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  7. Hi - just stumbled on your blog! Isn't God wonderful to give you the opportunity to care for these gorgeous children? I wish the world was made up of more people like you and your husband. God Bless your family.

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    1. Petra,

      We feel humbled and blessed beyond belief to have each one in our family. God is SO good!

      ~Sarah

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  8. I just visited your blog from a link party at Remodelaholic and after commenting on your scarf towel bar glanced at the menus to really visit your site. The first link I saw was your adoption story. My husband and I just turned in our paperwork recently to being the process of foster/adopting a baby or child. We've both had adoption on our hearts for a long time (me since I was 15 and spent a month working in an orphanage in Costa Rica some friends started) and it's exciting and nerve-wracking at the same time. It's been tough to surrender in this and know that God is in control and has a child (or a few?) that we can love and nurture in our family. I'm not sure what the future will bring, but I loved reading your story and seeing how God has worked in your lives. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Ashley,

      That is so cool that you guys just turned in your paperwork! It is a fun journey for sure. I almost went to Costa Rica after college to attend language school but then I got married instead. I bet your experience was life changing! Keep me posted on how things go...I would love to hear about it!

      ~Sarah

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  9. What a wonderful way to form a family! My husband and I adopted our sons from Kazakhstan in 2000 and 2006 and feel so blessed to be their parents. We found out one of our sons has a bio sister that lived very close to us. Talk about diving intervention! Now we are one big family and fell so blessed to have her and her family in our lives. Talk about an Oprah moment;-)

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  10. It seems like most adoption blogs I come across are about international adoption or private adoption of newborns, but since we're pursuing adoption through fostering I'm so glad I found this blog! We don't know what will happen, we've been foster parents for several months and have fostered 3 kids total, one still with us. Even if we don't end up adopting we are so thankful for the opportunity we've had to foster!

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    1. Katy,

      That is awesome that you guys are opening up your home to foster. So many possibilities on the horizon... :-)

      ~Sarah

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  11. My Aunt & Uncle have been foster parents for years. Only once did they come close to being able to adopt. The agency decided last minute to put them with another family and took the kids directly from school. The kids had lived with my Aunt & Uncle for 4 years! They were 2 &1 at the start of it all. To this day it breaks my Aunt's heart but she has continued to foster anyhow (through a different agency). I believe she has fostered closed to 100 kids from a few weeks old to older teens and for as long as a day to 6 years over the last 20 years. I've seen what it takes to open your home like that and not know how long the child will be with you. Its incredible and exceptionally commendable!!! God Bless you!!!

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    1. Wow, what an incredible blessing your Aunt & Uncle have been to all of those children!

      ~Sarah

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  12. I just stumbled on your blog this morning. Such a beautiful family you have. Thank you for encouraging my heart this morning and reminding me that God is at work even when we can't see it. We have been approved to adopt and are in the waiting stage...which feels like an eternity at times.

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    1. That is wonderful that you have been approved to adopt! I also know that the waiting stage can be so difficult. I'm glad that you were encouraged...God really does work amazing things behind the scenes. :-)

      ~Sarah

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